Not Really A New Year’s Resolution


I find it really hard to consistently post here. 

1. I’m not sure what I have to say on a daily base is worth sharing – and what I’m sure I want to share I probably shouldn’t. 

2. I’m much more comfortable actually writing out my thoughts. Old school-esque. You know, pen and paper? 

3. Probably the most detrimental is that I can never seem to take the time to post here. I’d rather spend my extra time reading, or better yet sleeping. Cutting a portion out of my day, every day, to write about life here seems very permanent.  And that just makes me want to scream (Guess who’s super excited for the 9-5 schedule?). 

 

Anyways, my official New Year’s Resolution is to drink more water than I do soda, (End goal, be a little bit more healthy) but this blog will definitely be a side goal for me. If I can post three times weekly, then I’ll be a little happier. 

September 8th, 2012


My day so far, in photographic form. 

 

 

 

 

And, just in case you wanted a view of the inside of my backpack, another view of the desk. More pictures to come later.

Crystal Huff


It came to my attentio today that Crystal Huff, Chair of Readercon, received a number of nasty emails following the infamous ‘Readercon Incident.’

Mean, hurtful emails, especially ones that advocate personal harm are not the way to ‘get things done.’ It’s bullying, and it’s not acceptable.

If you have a problem, contact the appropriate person. Explain your problem or concern, and if possible maybe even include a suggestion of a possible solution. By all means, inform the person that you are upset, but keep the screaming anger confined to your blog or Facebook (or insert another semi-public forum here). Don’t blame the person, when it isn’t their fault, and sure as hell don’t threaten them. Remember to be a decent human being.

So, hats of to Crystal (who is the reason I started writing my real thoughts here in the first place) for dealing with all of that. I sincerely wish you wouldn’t have had to.

And here is her picture – stolen shamelessly from FB- because on top of being kind, patient, intelligent and funny, I also happen to think she is particularly gorgeous. Next time I see you, you’re getting hugs and cookies.

Seriously, look at that smile.

“Great Hair”


For those of you who don’t know, I work for an NPR affiliate in Missouri. Today I picked up a shift from a co-worker who needed to something else. Fine by me, I slept the rest of the day.

One of our top stories today was a bulletin from the local police department – we’re a local station, in a small city so stuff like this is regular for us – about an attempted child abduction in a park last night. We were given a description of what happened and a description of the attempting abductor to read on air.

Any other day, this would not be an issue. Today? Yes. I am congested and sneezing. Occasionally I hiccup. Not a big deal until I was in the middle of reading, “..suspect is a white male, approximately 300 pounds with gray hair. Last seen wearing…” That becomes, “..suspect is a white male, approximately 300 pounds with great hair. Last seen wearing…”

Nothing like announcing that a child abductor has great hair. Thankfully, my boss was very amused.

Will “Scifantasy” Frank


Time for a less inflammatory post, yes?

Let’s take a look at another member of the cast. A very important one, really. My boyfriend, Will.

Patent Prom 2012

Obviously, this is a picture of the both of us, (Hint: I’m the one in blue…) instead of just him, but I really adore this picture. It’s one of very few that we have because he lives on the East Coast, and I live in the Midwest.

He’s fantastic. Incredibly patient, and kind…and it occurs to me that if I go on for much longer you will probably want to vomit. So, basics. He’s a lawyer (hasn’t lost his soul yet), a filker, and a great friend. He travels a lot, and you’re likely to hear him before you see him. (Nifty for finding him in packed room parties, by the way..)

We met in Reno in 2011, and we’ve been together for a little over a year. I think I’ll keep him.

Update: RAGE POST


I admit, I was pretty steamed about the accusations that caused me to write my last post. I stewed over them for an hour or two and then decided to post. No more keeping things to myself, right?

However, in my readings, I misunderstood something that Kate Kligman said. When she said harassment, I assumed she meant sexual harassment, because really what other kind would there be (No, not the dumb, but if there really was physical abuse, why the hell wasn’t it EVERYWHERE?)? According to her, she was bullied and threatened by a member of the Renovation and Chicon staff.

I do not believe it. Not one bit. I know the person accused. I’ve worked with the person accused. Just no.

would however believe that he pushed her to get her work done, and that he yelled at her in a moment of anger after she fucked up big. Having been around at that time, and aware of what she had done, it wouldn’t have surprised me at all. That being said, being around is different from being there.

I do not for a minute believe that she felt that she was in danger, or that if or when she brought these concerns up to a committee member that she was fired. Nor do I believe that she was ignored when she ‘brought it up months before.’

Her incredibly ridiculous response via far too many texts only managed to confuse and string her up by her own words, especially when she was called out for lying about what a co-worker said, apologized, and then said he said the same thing again.

No more feeding the trolls.

Time for sleep.

RAGE POST


It came to my attention today that Paul Cornell was retweeting comments by Kate Kligman. She was tweeting that she had been fired from Chicon 7 because she had attempted to bring light to sexual harassment that she had dealt with.

See this from Nick Mamatas (yes, I know he’s a troll) which includes a snap shot of the tweet from Kate and some unhappiness about the fact that Rene Walling was 1. attending and 2. volunteering at Chicon 7. Note that the link that is provided announcing that he wouldn’t be working Chicon is here and doesn’t actually say he won’t be at/volunteering for Chicon 7. Simply that he’d stepped down from the Hugo Award Marketing Committee.

Let’s set the record straight, because God knows that things on the internet aren’t always true. I have NO problem saying inconvenient and unpopular truths and opinions.

Kate Kligman was NOT, I repeat so there can be no confusion, she was NOT fired from Chicon 7 staff for trying to expose sexual harassment. No. Not one bit. She was fired because she dropped the ball on some major projects (plain speak: she FUCKED up) and was difficult to work with. Not to mention the fact that she was going around threatening to SUE Flying Monkee Helen Montgomery because Helen was honest about the fact that Kate had done fucked up.

Now the sexual harassment that I suspect that Kate is referring to was a sexual advance that she told me about late Monday night that came from a Chicon staff member AFTER she had been let go. Be aware that this is what I SUSPECT, not know.

Now, the reason that I know FOR DAMN SURE that this is not a legitimate sexual harassment issue is because the previously mentioned Helen Montgomery would simply not have stood for it. Helen is one of the strongest and loudest supporters of women’s rights, and personal safety that I know. She is supportive and very, very kind. She’s a mental health counselor and goes out of her way to help with these sort of situations at cons. Don’t want to take my word on Helen because she was possibly  going to be involved in a law suit with Kate and that would mean she would turn a blind eye? Fine. Let’s talk about Dave.

Dave is a good man, and he would never, never ignore a claim like this. He can be an ass, but he also has a two-year old daughter (that I am in love with and attempt to steal whenever I can. She’s just so good!). Why is this important? Well, how many new fathers do you know that would be okay with 1. letting sexual harassment slide and 2 actually going a step further and sweeping it under the rug? Didn’t think so. Dave can be an ass. He’s not always my favorite person. But he is good, and he is fair, and he would never ignore such an important complaint.

There were two more Monkees that would have been involved and hide this, too. Steven H Silver, and Bobbi Armbruster (sp?). Two more really great people. Two more people who you trusted to run an over all pretty-damn-stellar Worldcon. I’m not trying to say an action like this should be excused by a great Worldcon, just saying, stop and think about the good people who would have to have covered this up for it to have actually have happened. Good people you trust would have to have lied to you. Four, good people. More actually, because I doubt that it would have stayed just between the five of them.

Seems so likely now?

Didn’t think so.

Now, I think it’s also important to state why I wrote this. I didn’t write it to help clear Dave, Helen, Steven or Bobbi’s name. I hold no grudge against Kate, although I don’t particularly like her (obviously). I’m writing this because I don’t want the entire organization that I worked really hard for – Chicon 7 – to have its name smeared for something that I honestly, down to my core, don’t believed happened. Shame on you Kate for pulling this shit.

Edit #2: Kate has made it clear that the harassment that she alleges she dealt with wasn’t actually sexual, it was physical. All of what I said above stands. Harassment of any kind wouldn’t be acceptable, and I’m confident that the Monkees would stand for any of it.

Edit: It has come to my attention that a few people are viewing this as victim bashing.

1. It’s not. It’s simply the absolute utter disbelief that a situation like this could have ever happened. Note, I mean the sweeping of sexual harassment under the rug.

2. I will absolutely eat my shirt if I am shown evidence to the contrary. If this is the case, I (a victim of multiple sexual assaults) will with complete sincerity apologize. Publicly. As loud as I can. And do my best to support Kate. I would absolutely never speak to those involved again, except in the case to send them emails letting them know that to be the case and on the off-chance they ask for a channel to pass on an apology.

That is how seriously I take sexual harassment, and part of why I had no problem posting the original content.

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